Desire is about individuals

Are there leagues in dating

Some people are

Some people are instinctively more attractive than others, and most no matter their league will want them. Desire is about two people. But as love and sex become more and more commodified, the idea of the league becomes ever stronger, and with it our power to fight against it and locate our own true desires. Before a relationship can start, this sort of thinking might stop us from going after what we want for fear of rejection or embarrassment.

So at that point it didn't matter. It is not about leagues of people.

Conventional wisdom might say that this person is way out of your league. Leagues mainly come into play when say a girl is beautiful, sweet and smart, and is faced with a guy who is unattractive, broke, not confident, etc. Noah didn't have money and status, sure. And when a relationship ends, it might encourage us to think that we are not objectively good enough to be with the person we are no longer with. But we are the keepers of our own value.

So it only makes sense that if you can have them, you will pick them over someone who's not as attractive. Human desire is an illusive, idiosyncratic thing.

Desire is about

It is not about leagues of people We all find particular things attractive, for an assortment of complicated reasons, and so to talk about leagues is misleading. Desire is about individuals. Not other people, and certainly not the market.